Thursday, October 28, 2010

a picture of something that makes you happy







Could this be due to the fact that it's 2:30 in the morning? Yes. Let's go with that.

someone you see yourself marrying/being with in the future

Beyond the typical -- good sense of humor, etc. -- I think there are a few characteristics that I've learned I work really well with and/or I've found are more vital to the kind of relationship I want to be a part of.

It's not romantic, but I highly value a person who is good at conflict resolution. Everybody wants to spend time with people who they have common interests with, but more than enjoying a person's company, which is obviously important, I want to be with someone who I can face issues with, and whether we are on the same side or not, we can learn to thrive together. And I think this, in many ways, goes hand-in-hand with a good work ethic, which is rediculously important.

Another characteristic I look for in people is their adaptability. When it comes to being in a relationship with me, adaptability is definitely more important for the sanity of the fortunate young lady than it is a benefit for me. As I've learned about my own personality, I've learned that spontaneity can be good or bad (depending on who it affects), and I know my randomness could wear on a person if they were not built to deal with it. But knowing that, finding a person who shares this characteristic with me makes for a really great connection.

I would say those are the two traits that really make a long-term difference to me. Of course, I want the rest... the sense of humor, the adventurousness, the like-mindedness, the comfort in who she is instead of the desire to be who others want her to be, the selflessness, and the many other things that (I think) everybody wants in a person. Also, being easy on the eyes sure doesn't hurt.

nicknames you have; why do you have them

Not really a nickname guy. Rich and Richie are short for Richard, but I wouldn't consider those real nicknames. Over the years I have had a few, but none of them have lasted. I was called "Dirk" by some of the guys I played basketball with in high school because I was the only basketball player with shaggy hair and I guess that made me comparable to Dirk Nowitski. And "the Lionheart" was a nickname for a few days a couple summers ago, which was picked up around the card table, but probably only because it was late and everybody was tired. Not sure if it's fortunate or unfortunate, but that's all I can think of, and I'm fine with it.

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

plans/dreams/goals you have

Some are more realistic than others...

  • I plan on going back to school soon and studying Biblical Studies
  • I have a goal to pick which school to go to by the end of November
  • I'd like to teach Biblical studies someday
  • I want to sail around the world at some point
  • There are many places on my travel list... I'd like to check all of those off the list
  • I want to help people change their lives for the better
  • I'd like to, someday, have a nicer car that doesn't break down regularly
  • I want to spend more time reading and writing
  • I want to hit a last-second-shot to win the NCAA Basketball tournament for the Kansas Jayhawks (this one might be a bit of a stretch)
  • I want to go to a KU game at the Phog (sad that this hasn't happened yet)

Monday, October 25, 2010

someone you would want to switch lives with for one day and why

I love foreign experiences, so I'd switch with someone from another culture or with someone who lived hundreds of years ago. I'm not feeling this topic, so that's all.

another picture of yourself


It's always nice getting random chess opportunities...

Sunday, October 24, 2010

put your ipod on shuffle: first 10 songs that play

1. Damian Rice, The Blower's Daughter
2. Nat King Cole, Bugle Call Rag
3. Foo Fighters, Live-in Skin
4. 311, Loco
5. Johnny Cash, Bridge Over Troubled Water
6. Travis, She's So Strange
7. Ghostland Observatory, Piano Man
8. Arrested Development, Tennessee
9. Pink Floyd, Shine On You Crazy Diamond
10. Muse, Take a Bow

a picture of you and your family

Bad Christmas sweaters with my brothers and Grandpa...

Thursday, October 21, 2010

a letter to someone who has hurt you recently

Cecil,
Right now, you're not very "dear" to me, but that will change. I guess I get frustrated because I feel like we're always trying to fix things and we never have a chance to just be. We worked out an issue yesterday, and today, we're right in the middle of something else. It's not like I'm expecting perfection, but I'd like to get to the point where there isn't a list of issues to deal with. I trust that that day is coming. In the meantime, I want you to know that I'm not mad at you, I'm frustrated, but not mad. You're a good car, and I got a good deal on you, so I'm willing to accept the fact that you might need some work every once in awhile. Let's just try to go for a while without having something else break. I think we can both agree on that. It's the best for everyone.
Yours in Christ,
Richie

(Don't get me wrong, I've been hurt before, but I was just staring at the computer screen, not able to think of anything to write about. Maybe it means I'm boring, but I can't think of anything that has happened recently that has left me "hurt." I am struggling to find an answer to an important question in my life and it's looking more and more like I need a new job, plus, my football team isn't doing all that great, but there isn't anyone that has mistreated me. It's all just circumstantial.)

Monday, October 18, 2010

how you found out about [Blogger] and why you made one

The list I copied was apparently designed for "tumblr," which I assume is quite similar to "Blogger." Just a guess. I'll continue assuming that this "tumblr" is, therefore, just one of many blogging options, and nothing beyond the basic concept. So if I'm missing something by my assumptions, then I'll just answer the question that is in my head...

One of the first blogs I had any interest in was one my friend was keeping during an around-the-world trip. The previously-mentioned Paul, post-graduation, took off on an adventure that I was very jealous of, so I kept up with his trip via his blog, Vagabonding. So that was my introduction to "Blogger."

My reason behind starting my own blog was very simple. I like to write, and I want to get better. I've since learned that this format for writing is not the kind of thing that makes a big difference in elevating the skill of writing, at least that I've noticed. What has been interesting to discover is the amount of discipline it requires to crank out something very often. I've never been a technology-minded person. It took me years to convert from tapes to CDs, years to acquire a cell phone, I still don't text, and for me, writing is best done on paper. But I'm starting to get better at the art of forcing myself to write, regardless of whether I'm feeling the need for the mental release. So that's why I'm keeping the blog, despite the unsuccessfulness of my posting.

Sunday, October 17, 2010

Saturday, October 16, 2010

songs you listen to when you are happy, sad, bored, hyped, mad

I listen to music constantly, and there's no doubt that my mood has a great influence on what I'm listening to.

When I'm happy, I can listen to anything. So I guess this is my chance to tell you my favorites... Radiohead, MuteMath, Muse, & Josh Garrels are probably the top four. (Those four make it into any category) And then there's radio-friendly stuff like Coldplay and John Mayer that can fall into the "non-moody" music category, so that works whenever.

When I'm sad, it's a good chance to get back to some nostalgic music. So you can bet there will be some DMB. Others might include Stereophonics, Ben Folds, U2, or any of my favorite classic rock bands. And of course, being sad is the perfect occasion to skip ahead to the ballads on your Ipod.

Being bored creates the right mood to try something new. Usually that's my cue to look up a band I've heard about but yet to listen to. Or if I'm less motivated, I'll look through my Ipod for something I haven't listened to in a long time.

Hype music might be my specialty. Not that my music library consists of hype bands, but that's the mood when I absolutely must have music playing. There's nothing worse than getting pumped up for some silence. So when I'm hyped up, I'm listening to 311, NIN, Rage, and a select choice of hip-hop. And on the occasion when my mood might be described as "mad," this would be the same list. Especially Rage.

And just because it's one of my favorite all time songs from possibly my favorite all time album from one of my favorite bands, I'm listening to Radiohead's "There There" from Hail to the Thief as I finish tonight's post. It's so good.

Friday, October 15, 2010

something you’re proud of in the past few days

This is a weird topic to approach. I'm not having many opportunities lately to be especially proud of things right now. I'm not trying to say there's nothing going on in my life, and I'm not trying to be particularly humble. To clarify, I think I'm just at a point where life means a lot of small things are going on, and so its weird to think of the small things in life and feel a tangible sense of pride.

Anyway, I'm stretching for some ideas, but I can come up with something to be proud of. Two things that I wasn't completely responsible for, so I'll put together two halves to make the one whole to which I'm experiencing my pride.

I helped make some really tasty soup today.

I helped come up with a pretty good lesson plan with my buddy yesterday.

Ground breaking, no?

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

... and since I missed writing last night...


short term goals for this month and why

  • narrow my grad-school list down to one, then apply
  • finish getting my car fixed (there have been many issues lately, but I often will put off a repair if I can still drive the car)
  • write a lot
  • finish at least one of the books I'm currently reading
  • get prepared for my 2:15 sessions
  • come up with a good Halloween costume (preferably before Oct. 31)
  • etc.

a picture of someone/something that has the biggest impact on you

The way I see it, there are just way too many someones and somethings that have had a cumulative impact on me. Who I am, what I believe, my purpose and direction in life... nothing about me would be the way it is without countless factors being placed along my path at just the right time. So for me to declare that one thing or person has had more of an impact than all others just can't happen. It's the same reason that I can't pick my favorite song or movie... I just don't want to rule out all the others. With these questions, I'm willing to admit that I'm a commit-a-phob.

What I can do is pick one and tell you about it. I’ve experienced life without it, and then experienced the entire range of introduction to familiarity, and so the impact can be clearly traced. It’s my brother, Beau.


I’m almost nine years older than Beau, so I feel like I had an almost entire childhood as the youngest, and then a bit of childhood and adolescence as the middle. And considering that, my personality has definitely been affected by this combination of youngest and middle child existence. I also had a front-row seat to how my parents parent, which is much different than viewing it from the perspective of the parented child.

But probably more than any other impact on my life, having a little brother has helped me understand how prone I am to teaching. It’s not something I ever thought about doing, but it was a big part of my life post-Beau.

Thanks brother.

(Beau is a little more grown up than that picture. But it is just such a great look.)

Sunday, October 10, 2010

favorite super hero and why

While I was a huge TMNT fan (or pretty much any ninja), this one is pretty easy for me. It's Batman. Batman is the best. I used to watch the Batman cartoon after school everyday. I would watch other shows, but nothing compared to Batman. Even then, I loved how dark Batman was. I think my affinity for this super hero is due to the fact that he's just a normal guy. Every other super hero needs some set of powers, but not Bruce Wayne. I mean sure, he's got lots of money to buy his toys, but he's just a specific ninja. And if there was ever any doubt he was my favorite, which there wasn't, the new series of movies has solidified my choice. I love how he walks the line between hero and villain from time to time. I love how plausible Batman is. I love how the character has issues that need to be balanced.
Good villians, too. Heath Ledger's Joker, forget about comparing him to any other villian... he wins.

Saturday, October 9, 2010

Friday, October 8, 2010

a habit that you wish you didn’t have

I don't like bad habits. When I realize something about myself that I don't like, I try to fix it. I used to be late to everything, but I made a point to get better, and now I'm pretty punctual. But for whatever reason, if there's nothing going on, nothing to think about, or nothing to act on, I get fidgety. So, for a long time, I picked at my fingernails. And then I tried to break the habit, but I still needed something to do with myself, so I developed the lip-biting habit. So now, I'll either bite my lip (which isn't terrible, but looks dumb) or I'll pick at my fingernails (if they're long enough) or when I realize I'm doing one of those, I'll find something more useful to occupy my attention.

a picture of you and your friends


Casper's wedding a couple years ago... Not all, but most of the guys from college.

Thursday, October 7, 2010

the meaning behind your [Blogger] name

Gray's Pedestal...

George Gray
I have studied many times
The marble which was chiseled for me --
A boat with a furled sail at rest in a harbor.
In truth it pictures not my destination
But my life.
For love was offered me and I shrank from its disillusionment;
Sorrow knocked at my door, but I was afraid;
Ambition called to me, but I dreaded the chances.
Yet all the while I hungered for meaning in my life.
And now I know that we must lift the sail
And catch the winds of destiny
Wherever they drive the boat.
To put meaning in one's life may end in madness,
But life without meaning is the torture
Of restlessness and vague desire --
It is a boat longing for the sea and yet afraid.
- Edgar Lee Masters

This is my favorite poem. He talks about the character as a piece of art, a statue, but one that has many flaws. Many times he is offered something more, and each time he remains in the safety of the harbor until he finally realizes that a "play-it-safe" kind of life is no life at all. And so I love the reminder to never settle for something that isn't the life you want, to allow yourself to be a work in progress.

Tuesday, October 5, 2010

a recent picture of you and 15 interesting facts about yourself

Most recent picture of me, standing on the edge of a cliff next to highway 1, somewhere between L.A. and San Francisco.




I don't like starting with this one, but its the first one on the list, so I must...

1. I enjoy maps and black and white photography on my walls
2. I’ve lived in the following states (in this order): Kansas, Oklahoma, Indiana, Alaska, Georgia, South Dakota and New York (and currently back in Georgia)
3. My favorite season of the year is fall... I mean c'mon. Crisp weather, football, my birthday, some good holidays, and football. How could any other season compete?
4. My favorite/lucky numbers are 4 and 11.
5. I have a cat named Fitz. I like him.
6. If C.S. Lewis wrote something down, I want to read it.
7. I once jumped off a balcony and landed on a couch, all while sleep-walking. There are other stories of sleep-walking adventures, but jumping off the balcony wins.
8. Top two concerts I've been to... Radiohead at Lakewood in the pit, and MuteMath at the Tabernacle (DVD comes out soon)
9. I've never seen the Star Wars movies, but I'm working on a plan to make that happen soon.
10. I have a small record collection, a decent library, and, in a box somewhere, I have a pretty good collection of basketball cards from the early-mid nineties.
11. I once claimed to be able to pack any amount of luggage into the trunk of a car, and if you think I can't, you're wrong.
12. I played music with one of my top-5 favorite musicians.
13. If I'm trying to fall asleep in a quiet room with a ticking clock, I have to take the clock out of the room or the batteries out of the clock.
14. The easiest class ever I've ever taken... we would meet once a week, watch a movie, talk about it, and then write up a page about the movie. This is the one class I failed throughout my entire academic career.
15. I am incapable of keeping a pair of sunglasses for more than a month without losing them or breaking them... unless of course I don't like the sunglasses, in which case I don't have any issue holding onto them for years. I buy cheap sunglasses.

Monday, October 4, 2010

Insomnia Blame Game

A while back I took a trip to Colorado with my friends from college, the Fullers, who are awesome and definitely on the “favorite” list. I want to say a lot of good things about Colorado. I like it. The flight home included some delays, and like a good company, Airtran decided to make it up to us by giving us a voucher for a free plane ticket. Thanks Airtran.

So months go by and the voucher fades to the back of my mind, and then I get a call from my friend Jamie Fuller, who asks, “Did you use that voucher yet?” So we started planning, and the result was a trip to California to visit our friends the Kinds (also on my “favorites” list).

The trip included many adventures, many fantastic meals, many early mornings playing tennis, and a near-perfect trip up the coast to from L.A. to San Francisco…

Near-perfect… driving up the 1 was stunning. The views were unlike any I had ever seen. Who would’ve thought over 12 hours of roadtripping would be as enjoyable as it was? And the time in San Francisco was great. Despite the cloudy day, we had a great time riding our rented bikes all over the city and struggling when it was time to go up the steep hills. But during the drive up, one of our many stops along the road was centered around a spontaneous hike out towards the cliffs, and had I known that I was about to hike into poison ivy, I would’ve, at the very least, replaced my flip-flops with shows… maybe even replaced my shorts with long pants… or maybe I would’ve chosen not to take the walk due to the knowledge of my extreme allergy to poison ivy. But all of those options were not considered because the poison ivy wasn’t noticed. And because I was oblivious to the poison ivy, there was no reason to was my feet off right away, so I soaked it all in. Anyway, it was bad. It was uncomfortable to say the least. And not being comfortable for more than a week made it hard to sleep for more than a week. But I’m doing better now, its just after a couple weeks of staying up later and later every night (because I wouldn’t fall asleep until I was beyond tired), my sleep schedule has been way off.

And so now I’m better, but I’ve become a night owl, and I don’t like it. Anyway, it’s an excuse to catch up with some writing. And so I’ll be starting up something which I’m stealing from my friend Sammi, who stole it from my friend Mandy. So for 30 days I'll be writing a lot of stuff that few will find interesting. Whatever...

day 01- a recent picture of you and 15 interesting facts about yourself
day 02- the meaning behind your tumblr name
day 03- a picture of you and your friends
day 04- a habit that you wish you didn’t have
day 05- a picture of somewhere you’ve been to
day 06- favorite super hero and why
day 07- a picture of someone/something that has the biggest impact on you
day 08- short term goals for this month and why
day 09- something you’re proud of in the past few days
day 10- songs you listen to when you are happy, sad, bored, hyped, mad
day 11- another picture of you and your friends
day 12- how you found out about tumblr and why you made one
day 13- a letter to someone who has hurt you recently
day 14- a picture of you and your family
day 15- put your ipod on shuffle: first 10 songs that play
day 16- another picture of yourself
day 17- someone you would want to switch lives with for one day and why
day 18- plans/dreams/goals you have
day 19- nicknames you have; why do you have them
day 20- someone you see yourself marrying/being with in the future
day 21- a picture of something that makes you happy
day 22- what makes you different from everyone else
day 23- something you crave for a lot
day 24- a letter to your parents
day 25- what i would find in your bag
day 26- what you think about your friends
day 27- why are you doing this 30 day challenge
day 28- a picture of you last year and now, how have you changed since then?
day 29- in this past month, what have you learned
day 30- who are you?






Saturday, October 2, 2010

I'm not sure how long Blogger waits to delete an account due to inactivity, but apparently a year and a half is not the designated time. It was only a couple weeks ago that I stumbled upon a friend’s blog and the realization came into my head… “You have a blog.” So I guess I’m re-opening the vault of my mind to see what comes out.
What might help is the fact that sometime during the last year a got a working computer, so that can’t hurt. What definitely might help is my current bout with insomnia, a term which I am, admittedly, using without a strict adherence to the true definition. It isn’t an issue of getting enough sleep, its only the frustration of a morning person who has turned (overnight) into an extreme night owl. I don’t like it. I don’t know what to do with myself. It is time for sleeping, so I should be sleeping, but I can’t get to sleep.
Which brings me to my first topic to write about in awhile.
I know who to blame… I went to California recently.